101 ways to have a successful marriage

18 Nov, 2025

Become a part of a small group of married couples
Pray together daily
Read the Holy Bible Daily
Attend Church together weekly
Go to a marriage seminar together to invest in the success of your marriage once a year
Read books on marriage to increase your wisdom and understanding of growing a successful marriage.
Seek counsel from a qualified Christian counselor when having issues that need the wisdom of a third party.
Plan a date night once a week.
Husbands need to pray for vision and wisdom from God for his family.
Wives need to support the vision that her husband receives from God.
Memorize and declare the scripture together.
Get a financial planner to help you both manage and invest your money.
Use a money management system to allocate and save money.
Do the finances together even if one of you may be better at it than the other, so that both of you know what exactly is going on.
Keep commitments to one another: Do what you say when you say you're going to do it.
Go out to dinner with a couple who has been happily married three times longer than you have once a quarter.
Visit each other's family together.
Rotate holidays with each other's family.
Give the spouse top priority over any other person or thing on earth, even the kids.
Go on a mini vacation, get away from the crowd (weekend in or out of town over but a nice hotel)
Send love note emails to one another.
Make a sacrifice to help meet the needs of someone else's family together.
Both of you attend the kids' sports events together.
Get a puppy and take care of it, and train it together.
Get a card with a personalized note just because. (Proverbs 5:19)
Wives, pray for your husband to succeed at work and in the marketplace.
Wives, pray for your husband's vision.
Husbands, communicate the vision clearly, and write it out so your wife can partner with you to achieve it.
Build a personal relationship with God.
Iron your spouse's clothes when you are at the ironing board in the morning after you finish yours or even you iron yours.
Husbands, do some housework and also cook once in a while.
Wives get your hair done and get a new outfit just for your husband and tell him he is the special occasion, treat him like a king.
Husbands, spend time with your wife doing things that she would like to do, schedule time to do them with her. (Ephesians 5:28)
Go to an arcade together and play the games. (Ecclesiastes 3:13)
Take family portraits every year and send them to family and friends.
Keep a scrapbook of special events in your family's life where God has blessed you for your children and grandchildren.
Take a lot of pictures. (Psalm 89:47)
Keep a journal of lessons learned from good and difficult times and apply the wisdom learned through reviewing the journal every year.
Save up over time to purchase something together.
Come up with a business idea together, plan it out, and start it together.
Make a Travel Checklist for your trips and then pack clothes together when going on Vacation.
Husbands, try to pick out the outfits for your wife for work or for going on a trip.
Have fun with friends together monthly.
Have a mentor couple that you can see success in their years of marriage to talk with them on a scheduled basis and answer the tough questions. (Proverbs 13:20)
Experience something brand new to both of you have never done before.
Do a project together from start to finish.
Keep a journal of the things you love about each other, and review them quarterly.
Say 'I love you' everyday.
Eat healthy. Speak healthy. Do your best to stay in good health for one another.
Work out together.
Go to an amusement park together.
Go to a Clean comedy club or watch the session at home.
Go out with couple friends to the movies.
Share dinner with each other or feed one another dessert.
Write an appointment in your planner for special time with your spouse and keep it.
Dream together and write down your dreams and plan together with target dates to your dreams.
Send "Just thinking about you" postcards to your spouse if one of you travels.
Go to the museum together and discuss your impressions with one another.
Go ice skating together.
Husbands, go golfing together and be your Wife's Caddie.
Laugh a lot together.
Purchase gifts for family and friends when on vacation together.
Find out what each others love language is and start speaking it to one another.
Leave love messages on the answering machine or voice mail for one another.
Husbands, ask your what type of romance and affection she likes before she is ready to have intimate sex with you, and provide these romantic affectionate experiences for her every day.
Wives, ask your husband what your husband want you to do to be more sexy and attractive to him, listen closely without interruption and apply your husband's idea of sexy often. (1 Corinthians 7:3)
Give no other person on the face of the earth of the opposite sex priority over your spouse (parents and children included)
Talk to each other every day asking these four questions:
- What was the best part of your day?
- What was the worst part of your day?
- What was the funniest part of your day?
- What did you learn today?
Listen to each other completely without any interruption, this will make your spouse feel loved.
Have rules for arguing. (Amos 3:3)
Support one another's decision in disciplining the children.
Keep promises to one another.
Renew your vows to one another every 5-10 years.
Go on a Honeymoon every year, keep the marriage fresh. Plan like it's actually your honeymoon not just another vacation and stay in the honeymoon suite.
Celebrate each other's birthday like an all-week event with activities scheduled each day of the week.
Husbands, take the kids to a fun place and give your wife time to rest and relax.
Go to a Bed and Breakfast together instead of staying in a hotel while out of town together.
Take the name of your spouse and use each letter as the beginning of an uplifting and encouraging word that describes them. (M = Magnificent, I = Irresistable...) (Hebrews 3:13)
Go on a Vision retreat just the two of you once a year. Write a family vision and review your family vision together every month and make sure you're on track.
Ask your children what they think the family needs to be more successful and listen to them, and decide together which ideas your family will implement.
Learn a new language together, and speak loving words together in your new language.
Take dance lessons together.
Teach a class together on something you both are good at or passionate about.
Give your God-children's parents a break and watch all of their kids including your godchild together.
Adopt or foster a child.
Pray about where God wants you both to give and give to those causes.
Help your children start their own business to tap into their inner entrepreneur and earn money for the things they want.
Pray together or your friends, co-workers, and neighbor's families to succeed.
Have one day a month where you can be with individual friends building those friendships.
Husbands, find out what your wife would like done if you have the day off and make sure you help her to get it done. (aka Honey Do List) (Ephesians 5:21)
Wives, find out what your husband would like to be done if you have a day off and make sure you help him get it done.
Take pictures and send to family and friends often.
Husbands, treat your wife like a QUEEN. (Proverbs 31:31)
Wives, treat your husband like a KING. (Proverbs 14:1)
Husbands, make sacrifices for your family and put their needs ahead of your own.
Wives, lovingly support your husband and help him by praising him often for the things he accomplishes.
Husbands, go for a walk with your wife and focus on listening for her greatest needs or concerns.
Develop a family mission statement, slogan, and pick up a family theme song.
Whenever you believe in faith for God to do a specific thing in your life, select scriptures to stand on and speak them over one another before going to work.
Buy your wife some gifts and flowers often, and have them delivered to her at home or at work.
Make up your own creative ways to strengthen, enhance and cherish your Marriage Covenant to God and one another.

From the book: 101 Ways to have 100% Success in Marriage by Chris Davis

NB: These are just guidelines and suggestions, not the rules. Communicating and following through with your spouse are fundamentals for any "successful" marriage.

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