Controlling emotions
From Mastering Your Emotions, not only did I understand how emotions work, it gave me an understanding on ego and how people communicate. We're emotional creatures, after all.
Here are my favorite notes the book:
- Emotions are temporary
- Emotions are energies in motion
- Emotions are signals. Powerful signals.
- How to control your emotions
Emotions are temporary
Being happy doesn't make you a happy person. Being sad doesn't make you a sad person. Just because you're feeling depressed doesn't mean that you can't experience joy. Experiencing joy doesn't mean that you're invulnerable to a mental breakdown.
"I'm sad" becomes "I'm feeling sadness."
"I'm happy" becomes "I'm experiencing joy."
"I'm angry" becomes "I am filled with anger."
Emotions come and go. They are what makes us human. There is no need to associate our identity with our emotions. Because there is a wide spectrum of emotions. To identify someone with an emotion itself takes away their humanity.
Emotions are energies in motion
The Abraham-Hicks Emotional Scale shows that some emotions emit some energies to some degree. It also explains that the emotions that you manifest can either be a magnet or a repellant to others.
If you find yourself in the lower spectrum of the scale, use the emotion that is superior to the other. (i.e. using anger requires more energy than being depressed.)
However, if you're experiencing emotions that chronically affecting your work and your relationships, it's best to consider consulting a mental health professional.
Emotions are signals.
On our recent example, using anger as a signal to do something about your life is as useful as a wake-up call. This can be powerful if you let this signal turn your life around to a better direction.
How to control your emotions?
To control your emotions, you:
- acknowledge the currently experienced emotion
- understand why it exists at the moment
- make the decision to either use it or let it go (knowing what's at stake)